tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post1239053968764927833..comments2023-12-26T08:30:05.614+00:00Comments on A Mixed Bag: MOM.... AND ME!Valeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-85328320758923646042017-11-01T12:43:13.167+00:002017-11-01T12:43:13.167+00:00Beatrice, it happened from young childhood right t...Beatrice, it happened from young childhood right through to the time I got married. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-70950779392513464042017-11-01T12:16:29.025+00:002017-11-01T12:16:29.025+00:00So sorry to read that yiur mother treated you and ...So sorry to read that yiur mother treated you and your father so terribly, Valerie. I wondered for hiw many years this unwarranted anuse took place, and then yiu mentioned having a job, so it seems you were in your late teens or early 20s. How and when were you able to leave this abusive relationship. Sorry to word it that way considering, it’s your mother.Beatrice P. Boydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08281239556392874979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-60371776940681270952017-10-30T13:53:30.851+00:002017-10-30T13:53:30.851+00:00My dad was not abusive, but was an alcoholic. Some...My dad was not abusive, but was an alcoholic. Some things we go through can shape us as adults, some better some worse. I too made a vow to be nothing like him. Be proud that the cycle ended with her. kdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07504994174268834559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-82628838598457860002017-10-29T21:41:46.798+00:002017-10-29T21:41:46.798+00:00Sorry to hear that, Susan. I was fortunate to have...Sorry to hear that, Susan. I was fortunate to have a loving father even though his work took him far from home for long periods. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-54872459414630009522017-10-29T21:39:16.348+00:002017-10-29T21:39:16.348+00:00What a tragedy that you experienced such. My fath...What a tragedy that you experienced such. My father was this person. We tiptoed around him on some days. He finally realized this only when he was old and saw a TV program on child abuse.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-77272986199500477142017-10-29T20:18:58.445+00:002017-10-29T20:18:58.445+00:00My father was exactly that. Some days we kept qui...My father was exactly that. Some days we kept quiet and heads down. My father continued that until he was old and had to come to terms about what he had done. He realized 'child abuse' was his history. Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-1097944316767149082017-10-29T14:03:05.401+00:002017-10-29T14:03:05.401+00:00Treey, sadly things didn't get better. Mom was...Treey, sadly things didn't get better. Mom was even worse after Dad died. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-60160582636718275962017-10-29T13:21:00.373+00:002017-10-29T13:21:00.373+00:00Parents aren’t the easiest of people to get on wit...Parents aren’t the easiest of people to get on with. Things get better.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08094441414025227387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-1520161821000013872017-10-29T08:48:50.988+00:002017-10-29T08:48:50.988+00:00Carole, my mother was the oldest of eight children...Carole, my mother was the oldest of eight children but she didn't get on with most of her siblings. She left home at an early age, became a nurse and married my dad. She had no time for her mother. Comeuppance comes to mind!Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-60462484765580842562017-10-29T08:43:56.342+00:002017-10-29T08:43:56.342+00:00Ethan, seems you know exactly what I went through....Ethan, seems you know exactly what I went through. You are right, we remember the bad times more than the good. I was an only child and I often wonder if life would have been better if I had a sibling alongside.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-33029820372014327362017-10-29T08:40:32.259+00:002017-10-29T08:40:32.259+00:00Ron, as explained to Jimmy, my mother was guilty i...Ron, as explained to Jimmy, my mother was guilty if having a sexual affair outside of her marriage to my father which I think affected her mental state. I remember one incident when I was a small girl, mom and dad had a violent row and dad took me out of the house to get away from the ranting woman. Dad took me to the corner of the road where he approached a policeman and told him everything. It Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-42642566227095094182017-10-29T08:34:21.261+00:002017-10-29T08:34:21.261+00:00Jimmy, even though I harp on my mother's attit...Jimmy, even though I harp on my mother's attitude towards me, I really can't compare my situation with that of others... parental cruelty has become commonplace now. My mother was over-sexed (as claimed by a doctor) and she had an affair with a Justice of the Peace (don't laugh) which went some way to explaining her taking her frustrations out on me. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-18634796054080392802017-10-29T03:14:45.455+00:002017-10-29T03:14:45.455+00:00Valerie I am at a loss for words truthfully, I hat...Valerie I am at a loss for words truthfully, I hate that you were the victim of your Moms rage. I am proud that you are able to share it.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00079471254681821763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-61563208176842665732017-10-29T00:38:53.805+01:002017-10-29T00:38:53.805+01:00Valerie, I have to chime in on Denise's commen...Valerie, I have to chime in on Denise's comment and say exactly just that, I mean your Mom seemed to be angry at the world and took it out on you and those around her. There had to of been something in her life prior to being a wife and mother that caused her to be so furious and physically abusive. <br /><br />Don't get me wrong, I too got a smack on the butt from my parents whenever I Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15977027331657615697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-1651372220838739732017-10-28T23:07:00.886+01:002017-10-28T23:07:00.886+01:00Ugh! Sounds like my Mom. Dad worked constructio...Ugh! Sounds like my Mom. Dad worked construction out of state for 6-9 months a year sometimes. My Mom would blame him for most things. But there were times she would take her frustrations out on us. ( my brother and I) Is that part of being a Mother? Many times we might have deserved it. But you only remember the ones where you were wrongly accused and punished unjustly. My Brother The Great Ethan Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01325538741317535595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-32593874086470290322017-10-28T22:28:40.265+01:002017-10-28T22:28:40.265+01:00This is such an incredibly sad story. The cruelty ...This is such an incredibly sad story. The cruelty she showed to you is horrifying. It's so hard to understand. I wonder if she was that violent as a child/young adult. And it's hard to imagine someone with this disposition being a nurse!Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-69928765054102084632017-10-28T18:39:46.065+01:002017-10-28T18:39:46.065+01:00Denise, I often what she would be like in today...Denise, I often what she would be like in today's climate. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-89309623695155679462017-10-28T18:38:32.805+01:002017-10-28T18:38:32.805+01:00Janet, children seen to be in more danger now. I ...Janet, children seen to be in more danger now. I am horrified at what I read in the papers.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-73563790151693396912017-10-28T18:37:21.926+01:002017-10-28T18:37:21.926+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-51312427465934382232017-10-28T18:36:27.167+01:002017-10-28T18:36:27.167+01:00Larry, freedom was your safeguard, I think. Larry, freedom was your safeguard, I think. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-33904908955222369962017-10-28T18:35:25.621+01:002017-10-28T18:35:25.621+01:00Sharon, it was more difficult to prove anything in...Sharon, it was more difficult to prove anything in those days. Later in life, when I was married, she would come begging for things and if I refused she would strike out.... as old as I was I couldn't hit back.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-90192398129486458052017-10-28T18:33:34.115+01:002017-10-28T18:33:34.115+01:00Joeh, I was always walking on egg shells. Nothing ...Joeh, I was always walking on egg shells. Nothing I did would ever please my Mom, she treated my Dad the same way,Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-74871893582130660392017-10-28T16:34:33.109+01:002017-10-28T16:34:33.109+01:00No one should be treated like that, let alone thei...No one should be treated like that, let alone their own child. Sounds like your mum was angry at the world and took it out on you. My own mum had a mother like this and like you my mum treated us with nothing but love and kindness. DeniseinVAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08494518513936310345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-84938759944191885462017-10-28T15:43:41.302+01:002017-10-28T15:43:41.302+01:00How horrible for you! Can't imagine treating ...How horrible for you! Can't imagine treating a child that way.Mac n' Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05732924562630675589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8984234400935984998.post-17289202442616019722017-10-28T14:54:18.678+01:002017-10-28T14:54:18.678+01:00I always knew that a slap in the face was not righ...I always knew that a slap in the face was not right but my thought was that she still had control over me. It bothered here when I just left for college and really rarely went back. Her selfish desires really would have ruined my whole life but I found safety through distance. Sadly she never ever really got it that I was an independent person and she spent her life in competition and sadness L. D. https://www.blogger.com/profile/02270923121962761209noreply@blogger.com