She only comes to cut my
hair but in the process she tries to boss me about. Latest was her opinion on
my leg wound.
On her last visit the
wound was healing nicely. The four-inch scab had reduced to an inch – not bad
from my original estimate. Thing is, she reckoned I should see the doctor on the
basis that she believed my leg was infected. Was it heck! I would know if it
was. I tried pointing out that the latest wound was on top of an old wound.
When I say old, I mean OLD, like when I was eighteen years of age.
I had a very nasty
accident then, after my dress caught fire and I ended up in hospital for three
months having skin grafts all over my backside and part of an arm where I tried
to brush the flames away. The grafting skin was taken from my legs, cut into
stamp size pieces and placed on the wound on my backside. Clever stuff, because
from there the pieces spread across the flesh until they grew to love each
other and covered the whole area. They called it knitting, but it wasn’t the
sort of knitting I was used to. To this day, I can still see where the skin was
taken from on my legs and this is what the hairdresser could see.
Would she be told? No,
instead she insisted that the latest wound was infected because of the reddish
stripes.
Why won’t people listen?
After writing the above I
got to thinking about the way people talk to each other. It’s only when I
reached old age that I realised many people treat oldies as if they’re senile.
They start explaining what they mean when we understand perfectly well, particularly
those of us who are not deaf. Sometimes I feel like screaming ‘I DO understand.
I am NOT stupid’. Perhaps I should
say it? Perhaps people younger than me don’t realise that old age doesn’t
always mean a complete abandonment of faculties. Oh well, I’ve had my moan, I
shall just carry on carrying on!!
"Why won’t people listen?"
ReplyDeleteOMG, Valerie, I couldn't agree with you more! And I also ask the question..."Why do people feel the need to always give you advice when you never asked for it?!?!" That drives me insane! My brothter does that all the time. He'll always tell me what "I NEED TO DO" because he's knows better. I think not.
Glad to hear that your wound is healing well. I knew it would.
And I think you already know my feelings about how so many people in the world treat older (more mature) people. It infuriates me. As you shared, just because someone is older, doesn't me they're invalids. In fact, older people have more energy and alertness than most younger folk. Philly is filled with college students and they all walk around like ZOMBIES texting on phones; completely oblivious to what's going around them, and lost of their faculties. HA!
Great moan post, my friend!
Have a super Sunday!
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Good morning, Ron. I was happy that you agreed with my views. I tried to cast my mind back to younger years but I don't ever remember being 'bossy' to people older than me. It is strange because after writing this post my neighbour called round to have a moan. The moan was about one of her younger relatives. I refrained from commenting, thought it better just to let her get it off her chest.
DeleteIT IS SO TRUE, WHEN YOU ARE OLDER...oops, sorry for yelling. Damn, that was some accident when you were 18!
ReplyDeleteHappy that you agree, Joe. Re my ancient accident, I did a post on it once but I'm blowed if I can find it now. Perhaps that's for the best. I do remember posting it a few times when Bonfire Night arrived
DeleteYou know yourself much better than other people do - so it's always best to use your own judgement. The woman's opinion was undoubtedly well-intended but mistaken.
ReplyDeleteThe accident that you had when you were 18 is absolutely horrible and must have been extremely traumatic. You were so fortunate to have survived.
As for old age - - I was EXTREMELY impressed by Queen Elizabeth during the D-Day ceremonies and the visit with President Trump. She is incredibly sharp and alert at 93. Proof that old age isn't an affliction.
Our Queen is marvellous for her age. I am told she has a terrific sense of humour as well.
DeleteGlad you're healing well Valerie.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Dave
DeleteI understand your frustration totally Valerie. Do you ever notice that people talk to us e-v-e-r-s-o-s-l-o-w-l-y, with an intensity that is bewildering? I only realized with a shock that I am being treated differently nowadays because I'm looking older. I suppose they mean well but.... ;)
ReplyDeleteI am with you with the 'but...., Denise., and yes I have noticed the e-v-e-r-s-o-s-l-o-w-l-y conversations. Bah!
DeleteYour got that all right Valerie. Though on a few occasions I would bring my cane, lean forward looking particularly senile and helpless to get help with something I was too lazy to do myself.....Shameless!
ReplyDeleteLOLOL, Oh Larry, you are awful Or should I say artful? I might copy you and see what happens.
DeleteAnd isn’t this the truth, Valerie. I would have told the woman that it is none of her business, but that does seem harsh if she were truly concerned and well meaning. Of course, you could perhaps find someone else to cut your hair😉
ReplyDeleteI am considering your suggestion. Only trouble is actually finding someone else.
DeleteTo go from cutting your hair to a diagnosis? She must be one smmmaaarrrt woman.
ReplyDeleteI believe she thinks so, Susan.
DeleteIf she does the hair of mostly seniors, maybe she has taken on the mistaken role that she needs to tell them what to do (in the guise of helping). But I agree, the way she says it is very demeaning. Just smile and say "My doctor and I think I'm taking very good care of myself, thank you"
ReplyDeleteThat would be a smart reply, kden, I'll put it to the test if she starts again.
Deletemany people did the same things to others without considering ages (old or young)," ...they want to show that they are smart and boss....big boss.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful day
Tanza, your reply made me think further and I think your opinion is right. This lady does come across as wanting to be boss all the time.
DeleteI think kden's reply is pretty spot on as well, Val. But I wouldn't mind reading an update where you told someone that you do understand and aren't stupid. =)
ReplyDeleteIf that happens, Matt, I will make sure you hear about it. Going off now to practice a few words!!!
DeleteIt must be very tempting to say something when people act like that. I suppose it is usually best to say nothing, and in fact, it is definitely a good idea when someone is cutting your hair with a big pair of scissors :) But if someone was downright rude I think I would make some remark, as mild as I could do it - or they might start thinking they could carry on bossing me about.
ReplyDeleteWe have a friend who does one job for a living, yet always acts like he could easily have other professions... doctor being one of them. No training, no experience... yet he's said numerous times that when his wife was in the hospital and he'd give his assessment on things that the nurses were all amazed at his knowledge How far can our eyes roll up into our heads. Surely people like this help us find the answer.
ReplyDeleteI think you're managing just fine, Valerie. :)
Hey, Mary, welcome back my friend. I thought I was seeing things for a minute but No, it is thee! The hairdresser has gone quiet now and I have a feeling she is wishing she had kept her mouth tightly closed.
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